when you’re lost for words, I’ll write them for you
When my grandmother died, there were no memorable words for the grieving relatives to take away with them. At the time, nobody had thought about writing a tribute to celebrate her life.
Writing a tribute or eulogy isn't always the first thing on the mind of the bereaved.
Thinking of what to say whilst dealing with the pain and sorrow of loss and all the arrangements that have to be made is not an easy task at this difficult time.
If you’re struggling to find the right words, let me help you.
- I will meet (or I can contact by telephone) relevant family and friends in order to build a picture of your lost loved one. Form, language and style will be taken into account according to who is being remembered. Below you will see a general guide to the kind of questions I will ask in order to capture the character of the person. After discussion, I will write the eulogy and present it to you for approval and factual checking. My fees are reasonable and will vary according to the amount of time spent.
- If you would like to write the eulogy for yourself and need a guiding hand, I am able to offer suggestions on how to put the facts and memories together and present them to your audience.
As a general guide, you might like to think about some of the following questions as a starting point:
- What are your memories of the person?
- Their likes and dislikes?
- What are the significant happenings in their life?
- What are your feelings about the person?
- What did you do with them?
- Do you wish to share anecdotes from friends, family and work colleagues?
- Would you like to include a touch of humour, as appropriate? I can help you to get the tone right
- Musical preferences, hobbies, charitable activities
- Personal qualities
If the eulogy is for a younger person, I can offer suggestions on how to put your thoughts into a fitting tribute.
There are many ways to put your thoughts together. I offer a personal service in getting these ideas into a unique and suitably prepared written piece for a funeral or memorial service.
A eulogy is a way of paying tribute and bringing the character of the person into the minds of the audience, giving them something to remember and to take away with them. It is also the moment of letting go. For many people, writing and giving a eulogy can seem a daunting task. If you would like a helping hand, please call me.
You may wish to have a poem specially written for an In Memoriam tribute. You will find excerpts of my poems online. Further examples are available upon request.
A sensitive and sympathetic service is offered. Contact Diana.
I have been honoured and privileged to write and deliver eulogies for both my mother-in-law and father-in-law. These speeches are available upon request. You will find excerpts of poems on the In Memoriam page.